How to be a Godly Woman
Sermon introduction and notes from Pastor Noah Herrin from WAY ChurchNote: I’m beginning to center each week around a specific theme and curate sermons, books, music, and articles that all speak into that topic. I hope to slowly build a kind of digital library of trusted Christian resources. I’m still fine-tuning how this will look and function, but for now, here are the sermon notes for this week’s theme: How to Be a Godly Woman. This week, I focused on two sermons on Proverbs 31 from different churches.
How to be a Godly Woman
1) A godly woman is holy (Proverbs 31:10)
“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10
A woman of God is rare because holiness is rare.
Holiness isn’t “God keeping me from fun.” Holiness is being set apart
Practical holiness:
There are things I won’t do / say / go to because God wants to work through my life.
God looks for holy vessels, not just talented ones.
Word of God over everything
Build your life on Scripture, not just devotionals, feelings, or social media advice.
Don’t “trust your gut” as your highest authority: “Is this in the Bible?”
Dating note
Don’t downplay your love for Jesus to seem less intimidating.
Don’t compromise holiness to gain attention.
Your primary call is devotion to Jesus, not chasing marriage.
2) A godly woman is capable (Proverbs 31:10)
“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies.” Proverbs 31:10
Capability doesn’t arrive with a wedding band; it comes from the cross.
Jesus is Lord of your life. He has a purpose for you right now.
Singleness
Don’t waste your season. Use the time and freedom to serve, lead, and build God’s house.
3) A godly woman is trustworthy (Proverbs 31:11–12)
“Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:11–12
One of the fastest ways to damage it in marriage is talking about your husband to your girlfriends.
“Venting” can: sabotage unity, make friends think less of him, and make your marriage worse long-term.
A woman of God honors her husband by what she says and what she refuses to say.
If there’s a real issue, handle it with your husband directly (or in wise counsel), not casually in a group setting.
4) A godly woman has godly friends (community)
You grow in godliness by being around godliness.
Church is the best place to build godly friendships: join a group, serve consistently, take initiative (don’t wait to be “invited” into community).
Seek older, spiritually mature women (“spiritual moms”) who can model decades of faithful walking with Jesus.
5) A godly woman speaks life over her husband (Proverbs 31:11–12; Proverbs 18:21)
“The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” Proverbs 18:21
“Her husband can trust her… She brings him good, not harm…” Proverbs 31:11–12
Wives carry tremendous power with their words
Scripture gives strong warnings about a quarrelsome spirit: Proverbs 27:15, Proverbs 21:19
A godly woman becomes her husband’s biggest encourager, not his biggest critic.
Strategy shift: instead of constantly highlighting what’s wrong, affirm what’s right and speak strength into him.
6) A godly woman is a sexual blessing to her husband (marriage)
This is about husbands, not boyfriends.
Sex is a gift from God meant to unify and strengthen a marriage.
If a dating relationship is built on sexual compromise, the sermon calls for repentance and a new foundation of obedience.
7) A godly woman works hard (Proverbs 31:13–21)
“She finds wool and flax and busily spins it… She is energetic and strong, a hard worker… She extends a helping hand to the poor and opens her arms to the needy.” — Proverbs 31:13–20
Proverbs 31 describes diligence, initiative, stewardship, and generosity.
Whether you work outside the home or are a stay-at-home mom: work hard “unto the Lord.”
For the “work vs. stay home” question: seek the Holy Spirit together as a couple. God is not a God of confusion.
8) A godly woman dresses appropriately / modestly (Proverbs 31:22–23)
“She makes her own bedspreads. She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns. Her husband is well known at the city gates…” Proverbs 31:22–23
Your life should look different from the world because you belong to Jesus.
Modesty is framed as identity: you were bought with a price; you’re not for sale.
A woman of God doesn’t need attention, likes, or validation to know her worth.
9) A godly woman knows her value comes from the cross (Proverbs 31:25)
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.” Proverbs 31:25
The world teaches value comes from what people will give you for it.
The gospel says your value is set by what Jesus paid for you.
If you feel like you’ve failed: Jesus offers a new identity through repentance and faith.
They ended with this declaration over women, and I thought I’d share it here too!
I am a woman of God
My words are filled with life
My actions carry grace
I want my life to count
So I pour it all out
My confidence comes from Jesus
And my value comes from the cross
The world does not define me
Only God does that
I am worth waiting for
But I won’t wait to serve the Lord
I know who I am
I am a Woman of God.
I am an unmarried girlie so I was a little stumped during the “husband” section. I came across a second sermon on being a Godly woman that included a wonderful section for single women by Pastor Paul Kim from 1128 Ministry.
1) Honor your future husband now
A godly woman honors her husband before she meets him.
Sexual purity is about obedience.
If I want a future marriage built on holiness, I can’t ignore holiness now.
2) Pressure is not love
If a relationship consistently pushes you past boundaries you know dishonor God, that isn’t cherishing love. It’s lust.
aka: “We’re basically married.” “We’re going to get married anyway.” “It’s not a big deal.”
If he can’t lead in self-control now, a wedding ring won’t fix that.
Obedience may mean walking away
It is better to pursue godliness apart than to build a future on disobedience.
4) If you’ve already crossed lines
This is not about shame; you can begin again.
Holiness is not a spotless past; it is turning back to God.
5) Your value is already settled
Your worth was set at the cross.
You were bought at a price.
You are too valuable to be treated casually.
Notes:
How to be a Godly Woman | Noah Herrin
Way Church is a church community in Nashville, Tennessee.
Check out: https://waychurch.com/
How to Be A Woman of God // Designed for Love (Proverbs 31:10-31)
1128 Ministry exists to be a place where broken people encounter the redeeming love of Jesus and be transformed into disciples of Christ.
Check out: www.1128ministry.org
